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April 29, 2007

you’ve obviously felt unsatisfied for a long time.

Filed under: random, questions, hockey — meg @ 11:28 am

Wow! I had no idea there was so much stuff you wished I’d write more about!

So, since I’m lying in bed with coffee and my laptop and not getting anything ELSE done, why not babble a little now?

For Mary:

Hockey is definitely in my blood… it was inevitable that I would become a fan.

My grandfather played in the farm system of what would become today’s NHL, and my dad played in rec leagues throughout my childhood.

I was on skates pretty early on, too, and spent some time growing up in Edmonton during their “hockey dynasty” years, which accounts for the fact that I like the Canucks, not the Oilers, and Mark Messier is a mythically evil figure in my life.

It was always going on around me, really. Hockey was something to love.

But I didn’t TRULY come into my own fanship until my late teens-early twenties, when I began to fall in love with hockey players wholesale and spend all my Saturday nights watching my friends play at tiny community arenas.

Then I started to absorb stats and highlight reels with vigour… and it was all downhill from there.

Today, I am a die-hard, non-bandwagon, devoted no-matter-what Canucks fan, and will be that way until they put me in the cold, hard ground. Or the cold, hard ice, on a particularly vicious check.

For Liz:

Sports thuggery is a major pet peeve of mine, actually. As a hockey fan, I’m pretty used to guys mixing it up on the ice, but the inability to keep cool OFF the ice is really not cool. Fortunately (and I say that wryly), hockey players tend to be more of the “bar fight” variety of idiot, and not so much the “cap in your ass” types.

Many of them actually come from small towns on the prairies and Quebec where their mothers would have tossed them in the well if they’d shown up late for chores or even talked back. Lots of family influence, lots of religious influence, lots of strong role models.

Then again, hockey parents can be HORRIBLE. So it’s six of one and half a dozen of the other.

I do watch the NFL (never been a huge basketball girl), and I’m pretty disappointed by how some of the players conduct themselves.

The sad thing is that a sudden influx of money into the lives of many professional athletes creates power and conflict situations that they just aren’t prepared to deal with, and things unravel accordingly.

Background plays some role, cultural forces play some role, external relationships play some role, and team dynamics DEFINITELY play some role, but at the end of the day, there’s no excuse for abusing your privilege. I don’t care where you come from.

I believe in criminal charges, harsh suspensions, major fines, and league sanctions for athletes that take liberties on AND off the field. Period.

For Shane:

Onions make you cry because they’re nasty little bitches.

Sure, HowStuffWorks.com says this:

“When you slice through an onion, you break open a number of onion cells. Some of these cells have enzymes inside of them, and when they are sliced open, the enzymes escape. The enzymes then decompose some of the other substances that have escaped from sliced cells. Some of these substances, amino acid sulfoxides, form sulfenic acids, which then quickly rearrange themselves into a volatile gas.”

But I believe that there is just a natural human-onion conflict — like that which exists between men and women — that creates this phenomenon. And sadly, unlike the gender crisis, we don’t have sex to make it all better. So we cry.

And don’t even think about having sex with an onion. You think it hurts your eyes? Wait until they get at your bits.

For Barbie:

Yes, I do often wonder about peoples’ blog names. Sometimes, they explain the little “nicks” in their “About Me” page, and sometimes I actually just email them about it out of boundless curiosity.

Usually, however, according to the content of the blog, you can kind of figure out why they chose the name they chose. But, again… if I wonder, I ask.

I will admit that really weird, lengthy, oddball blog monikers make me roll my eyes a little, mostly because you’re not really helping anyone remember you if you make it too complicated. But that might not be what you want, anyway.

(Oh — and any blog that uses “69″ in the URL or nick is dead to me. Ha!)

Many people use their blogs as an anonymous place to vent or express things they need a special outlet for, and that’s totally cool. I love that the Web has given them that opportunity to seek out community.

I do that, too, but I don’t write about work, or express frustration that I don’t express to the source of the frustration first. That keeps me out of hot water… generally.

When people email me about starting blogs, I usually advocate for starting under their own names if they are looking to build a writing career… otherwise, it just doesn’t matter. Many people feel safer in general with a pseudonym, too, especially if they have kids.

More to come!

April 27, 2007

ow.

Filed under: questions — meg @ 8:25 am

I was going to write a long, delicious blog entry for you, full of near-death stories and inspiring details and pictures of sunsets and babies and kittens. Also? Hockey.

Sadly, however, I have a migraine, so I must reserve all my mental energy for not… exploding… at… the… neck. And work. Which I have a ton of.

It’s a REALLY good migraine, too… I think my allergies are helping it build steam, and that’s always a recipe for fun.

So, I will require you to write my blog for me today.

In the comments below (And you all have to do it! I see you there not commenting! I’m looking right at you! Or squinting, more specifically. Do you find it oddly bright in here? Is that a gnome on your shoulder?) please tell me the following:

    1. One natural phenomenon or news issue or computer quirk that you totally don’t understand and wish you did. Bonus points if it involves precipitation, Joe Francis, or Microsoft Windows. Just kidding. It can be anything.

    2. If you know the answer to someone else’s “thing they don’t understand”, tell us!

    3. One thing you’ve always, always, always wished I would write about because you want to know what I think.

    4. Your favourite animal.

    5. Your favourite kitchen utensil.

    6. What kind of pants you’re wearing.

    7. How are you? And I mean, really… how ARE you?

I, for one, need a head transplant.

April 26, 2007

snap!

Filed under: questions, angsty — meg @ 8:27 am

Keep answering here… I totally find it fascinating to hear how people navigate conflict in their lives.

Here are my answers — if something doesn’t make sense, just ask:

1. Do you have a temper?

I definitely do, but it’s usually more connected with circumstances than people. If a million rough things are going on, my tongue gets sharper and I react much more quickly than I should. I don’t like to be pushed OR ignored when I’m frustrated, and oddly — those are generally exactly the things people do in dealing with my bad mood.

I can’t really blame them, but I rarely like it. I get over it pretty quickly, though… and if I was a jerk, I apologize, and mean it.

I DO hate it when people are rude for the sake of being rude… that gets me on the defensive despite the fact that I should know better. The whole “no excuses” or “proud to be a bitch” or “I don’t care if offend people, that’s their problem” thing seems like such a waste of time to me. Why not actually listen to people? Why not try to be decent to them? It blows my mind when people act that way, and then wonder why the world is such a messed up place in the next breath.

Are you serious? Do you want to borrow my mirror and check out the problem?

Oops. I think that was my temper again.

2. Do you yell?

I don’t very often, actually. It takes a lot to get me that far. I used to think I was a yeller, but I think I only respond to yellers that way. And I only end up yelling at people I love, if I’m going to yell, because they’re the only people who can push my buttons that thoroughly. My mom and I have yelled at one another quite a few times, and I’ve had some interesting dust ups in relationships. Oddly enough, I do tend to get interested in guys who resolve conflict with silence. IRONY ALERT.

My friend Jonathan, however, stands out as the one person I can yell at, and it’s deliriously fun. We’re good fighters, and we always end up laughing.

3. Are you good at confronting/challenging people when you have an issue?

Too good. I should let things sit more often, rather than rushing in and trying to resolve a problem that only I might see. I do stand up for other people, though, and I rarely regret those kind of confrontations. I’m much more measured when I am acting on someone’s behalf, and a pretty decent advocate. I was planning to be a lawyer for years, and I think that instinct was part of the impetus behind that.

I’m totally not afraid of conflict, though I can get a little intimidated when really unpredictable people get up in arms. Are you going to smack me? Hug me? Smother me? What?

And ohhh… please talk to ME if you have a problem with me. Not everyone else on the planet.

4. Do you know how to resolve your arguments generally?

The kind of arguments I have usually resolve with time or an apology. Everyone just needs to chill out and own up to their own rough reaction. If I’ve ended up in conflict with someone I don’t know well, or someone who refuses to communicate, I’m pretty stymied, though. You can’t make someone resolve something if they don’t want to… and believe me, that gets me going all over again.

Which is, without a doubt, a fairly obnoxious character flaw.

5. Do you often apologize first?

Oh, yeah. I’d rather resolve things, especially since I know I can be a bit of a hothead.

6. Are you good at forgiving other people?

Definitely. Forgetting is harder, but I’m improving with that, over time. When people do the same thing over and over again, it gets a little more challenging. But again, I have to take a look at myself and go, ah… you’re annoying. Let them be annoying.

7. Do your strategies (or lack thereof) for dealing with conflict/issues work for you?

Heh… not always. Not with stubborn people or non-communicators, or people that just don’t communicate like I do. They probably think I’m a jackass. But I don’t really engage in a lot of conflict, so I’m not suffering at the hands of my own strategies.

8. Do they work for the people around you?

Mostly. Unless you don’t like me. Ha!

9. Do your expectations of how other people should handle conflict match up with your own behaviours?

I have a really hard time with people who say something cruel in a situation, and then refuse to deal with anything beyond that. That’s just a huge waste of time and relationship to me. If you can be kind to people, you should be. And if you mess up, say so, and then everyone can move on.

But I am learning to not expect people to do one thing or another in response to a situation… to just wait and see and accept, or react accordingly when the time comes. Sometimes we’ve coloured a situation so much with our expectations that we’re ready to freak out before it even comes to fruition.

10. Do you have people in your life that you may or may not love but they get you going like no other person on earth?

I do, and it’s not something I’m proud of. I don’t even think they mean to set me off, but under certain circumstances, it seems to be inevitable. When I realize that’s happening, though, I tend to just ignore my own reaction and chalk it up to me being too eager to take the bait, or too prone to overreact.

April 25, 2007

@$!#!$@&!

Filed under: questions, angsty — meg @ 4:36 pm

1. Do you have a temper?
2. Do you yell?
3. Are you good at confronting/challenging people when you have an issue?
4. Do you know how to resolve your arguments generally?
5. Do you often apologize first?
6. Are you good at forgiving other people?
7. Do your strategies (or lack thereof) for dealing with conflict/issues work for you?
8. Do they work for the people around you?
9. Do your expectations of how other people should handle conflict match up with your own behaviours?
10. Do you have people in your life that you may or may not love but they get you going like no other person on earth?

Tell us all about it. Let it out.

April 13, 2007

rain, heavy at times.

Filed under: random, questions — meg @ 8:10 am

I’m addicted to the Weather Network.

I really, really am.

Even though I sit beside a giant window at work, I still check it several times a day to get the latest scoop.

I marvel at the sudden probability of sunshine, or the perpetual rain warnings, or even the freakish snow forecasts that show up now and then.

Sometimes I look to see how the weather is where other people live… people I love, people who read my blog, even random people living in Cambridge Bay, Nunavet.

I just like knowing.

Everyone else thinks it’s weird, but I think it’s significantly LESS weird than when I was addicted to the Highway Conditions Channel in Edmonton. I mean, I didn’t even have a car. But it was pretty damn thrilling when one of the routes would be coloured bright red: “CLOSED DUE TO DETERIORATING WEATHER.”

Other odd obsessions of mine include:

Facebook (LET ME GO, EVIL SITE)
Shopping for produce (I wish you could buy cherries ALL YEAR ROUND)
Havaianas
Gmail
Sunshine
The Beeb
Penguins
Tall men
Texting
70’s soul music
Coffee
Burning lip gloss (Lip Venom, Too-Faced Extreme Lip Injection)
Playoff hockey (GO CANUCKS! AAAAH!)
Antihistamines
Trying to make my hair bigger (impossible)
Happy Planet Juices (especially Clean Green and Abundant C)
Thai curry
Goldfish
Puppies
Choosing a new perfume (down to Burberry Brit and FlowerByKenzoSummer, Fresh Hesperides)
Cherry Blossoms
Banana loaf
Marinades
Finding the perfect Hot Wing
Big rings
Pandas

What frivolous things do you get stuck on (if you give them the chance in your busy day)?

What can’t you stop thinking about?

February 22, 2007

Come aboard, we’re expecting you…

Filed under: love, questions — meg @ 9:08 am

Well.

I’m having a super excellent week (note: this phrase intended to drip with irony, which I evidently failed to accomplish, since I had to add this note.)

Why, just yesterday, I had a migraine, what appeared to be a scorching sunburn on my face, neck and chest on and off all day, and fits of nausea.

Unless I’m having triplets (which we all know is not possible, since the babyhaving is not in my biological plan) or recovering from a whirlwind vacation to Aruba, I’d say this is unacceptable. But all bets are off with my quirky yet cuddly body at this point, so it behooves me to seek out some fun and cheer to mitigate the bizarre side effects of my treatment.

SO!

How can you help this process? Well, by joining in I LOVE EVERYTHING day.

What is I LOVE EVERYTHING DAY?

It’s an occasion I just made up to cheer myself. What of it?

Today, on this here blog, I invite you to return regularly to discuss not things you merely like and/or appreciate, but LOVE. Really LOVE.

Stuff you are COMPLETELY AND RIDICULOUSLY SOLD about.

We’ll be talking about many kinds of things and many types of love, and there will be something for everyone.

So. I LOVE EVERYTHING.

How about you?

Let’s get started.

TOP TEN THINGS I LOVE RIGHT THIS SECOND

    1. Coffee
    2. My roommate
    3. Texting
    4. My bed, though I left it behind
    5. Crullers (I wish I had one)
    6. My red boots
    7. Dreamweaver (working oddly well this am)
    8. The people of Northern Ireland
    9. My leopard-print ring
    10. Wintergreen mints

And you?

February 15, 2007

a million things.

Filed under: questions — meg @ 11:53 pm

… are jumbled in my head, and I can’t get a single one of them to stay on my screen long enough for me to press the publish button. That drives me mad.

I can usually snap out my thoughts like a crisp sheet from a summer clothesline. But today, I can barely get them out of the basket and into the sun.

So, some questions:

1. Are you more engaged by sarcasm or gentility on the internet?
2. Do you believe your political views define you?
3. What makes someone worthy of a relationship?
4. Do you find it hard to get up in the morning?
5. Why am I such a chicken about going to the doctor? And why am I dreading tomorrow as a result?
6. What’s the last most beautiful thing you saw?
7. If you could meet any one person you don’t know, who would it be? Why?
8. Are you easy to love?

Just curious. And is anyone else craving KFC?

Weird.

December 9, 2006

spreading the right to choose.

Filed under: love, either or, questions — meg @ 6:31 pm

I just got an email that completely made my day:

(Or would have, if it hadn’t ALREADY been made by having lunch and shopping with my Mom, The Judy… )

From (faithful and excellent reader) Chris in Virginia (which makes my blog sound like a call-in show):

(why am I using so many parentheses)

Hey Meg,

My daughter (a junior at Radford University at Radford VA)
loves getting your "choose" quizzes from me. She never
has time to do much blog reading so I copy and paste them
for her.

She's an RA (resident advisor) and used one of your
CHOOSE quizzes for a program. Everyone on the first
floor of her dorm had to vote and then she made up this
bulletin board -- complete with a credit line for YOU!

(She added the "paper or plastic" item -- she spent
four years working in a grocery store over the summers!)

If these pictures don't come through -- let me know.

Chris (in VA)

***

That is the most awesome thing EVER.

Wanna see the pictures? I know. I DID, TOO.

HOW FUN IS THAT? And check it out, I get a byline:

THAT, my friends, is better than a blogging award. That’s like a… a… DORM AWARD.

Thanks, Chris!

AND thank you to the choosy people of Radford University!

December 6, 2006

choose for me.

Filed under: questions — meg @ 5:40 pm

Knowing what you know about the Meg personality and style, which of these bags (the truckers, not truckettes) would you think is a good new home for Martin the iBook?

I’m torn between the Poppy (on black) and the Chirp (in brown) and the Kyoto.

UPDATE: Oh, GAH. Which?!?

UPDATE NO. 2: Well, I’m pretty set on an Acme bag now. A cargo one. But not sure WHICH one…

Leave your suggestion in the comments!

November 20, 2006

don’t you wish your girlfriend was emotionally distant like me?

Filed under: love, think, questions — meg @ 10:09 am

Hey.

Good morning.

It’s actually sunnyish in Vancouver today, though that’s supposed to change this afternoon.

For what it’s worth, I ADORED arriving at work without wet pants for once.

I’m definitely a sunbaby. I love the cold, but I like it clear, too! Woo, clear!

Bring on the Aspen-esque weather, really.

I’d be delirious.

I’m feeling a bit under the weather this morning — migraine, etc. — so I’m probably not appreciating the brief blip of dry weather as much as I should. I don’t think I slept much this weekend, and I’m left with an odd cotton-headed feeling that’s nearly impossible to shake. And a squidgy face. And coffee made from the DEATH WATER. Meh.

All in all? Grouchpants.

So.

Here are some random questions for you, based on things I’m trying to figure out in my life. If you answer them, I will cheer up!

Emotional blackmail!

Yay!

No, no… I’m honestly curious to see what you think about all of this stuff, clever internets. So share your wisdom with Miss CloudBrain ™ and make the world a better place to live (in proximity to me.)

  • If you’re in a good relationship now — or had a good one at some point that ended for an obscure reason unrelated to your happiness (I wouldn’t even know how that would work, but people seem to do it all the time) — how did you get to the point of trusting the person you’re with? How did you stop comparing them to everything else that came before in your life?
  • Do you think there is a recipe for romantic happiness? Do you think you can line people up according to like qualities, and connection will ensue?
  • How important are looks in romantic chemistry?
  • If you know you need to change something about your life, do you start slowly, or make a big production of the changes in order to spur yourself onward?
  • Do you have a cure for insomnia that isn’t melatonin or calms forte or valerian root or warm milk? And I really don’t want to take sleeping pills. Really, really not.

There. That’s it. Show me the love?

Pleeeeease?

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