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1. Do you have a temper?
2. Do you yell?
3. Are you good at confronting/challenging people when you have an issue?
4. Do you know how to resolve your arguments generally?
5. Do you often apologize first?
6. Are you good at forgiving other people?
7. Do your strategies (or lack thereof) for dealing with conflict/issues work for you?
8. Do they work for the people around you?
9. Do your expectations of how other people should handle conflict match up with your own behaviours?
10. Do you have people in your life that you may or may not love but they get you going like no other person on earth?
Tell us all about it. Let it out.
April 25th, 2007 at 7:47 pm
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1. Yes.
2. Seldom.
3. Getting better.
4. Yeah, except with my husband.
5. Yeah.
6. Yeah.
7. Getting better.
8. Yeah, except for my husband.
9. No.
10. Yeah. My sister and my husband. I can talk it out with my sister, but it’s unpredictable with the mr.
April 25th, 2007 at 9:19 pm
1. Yes
2. Usually in private, like in my car.
3. No
4. No
5. Yes, always
6. Yes
7. No. Yes. Maybe.
8. Yes. No. Maybe.
9. Not at all.
10. Yes.
April 25th, 2007 at 9:26 pm
Well, you are very good at the provoking of the thoughts! I answered them on my blog, and pimped yours a bit as well :).
April 25th, 2007 at 10:33 pm
1. Do you have a temper?
I don’t think I do.
2. Do you yell?
Only if the other person is.
3. Are you good at confronting/challenging people when you have an issue?
I like to think I am. But I choose my battles carefully.
4. Do you know how to resolve your arguments generally?
Arguments don’t get resolved when people fall into the trap of thinking every word said must be contradicted. Keep track of the actual points being made and don’t lose sight of what the goal of the discussion is.
I fall into this trap from time to time. But I like to believe it’s the other person’s fault. Because it is.
5. Do you often apologize first?
If I think it’s warranted. Or if I’ve determined I need to placate someone.
6. Are you good at forgiving other people?
Given enough time, I am able to forgive a wide variety of transgressions. I think that’s a start.
7. Do your strategies (or lack thereof) for dealing with conflict/issues work for you?
I haven’t had any problems with them.
8. Do they work for the people around you?
I think you need to ask them that.
9. Do your expectations of how other people should handle conflict match up with your own behaviours?
My computer says you misspelled “behaviors.”
10. Do you have people in your life that you may or may not love but they get you going like no other person on earth?
Oh sure, ya.
April 26th, 2007 at 7:39 am
1. Do you have a temper? Yes, but it rarely shows, even when it ought to.
2. Do you yell? Rarely.
3. Are you good at confronting/challenging people when you have an issue? No. Not at all.
4. Do you know how to resolve your arguments generally? No, I usually give up first.
5. Do you often apologize first? All. The. Time.
6. Are you good at forgiving other people? I may forgive, but I never, ever forget.
7. Do your strategies (or lack thereof) for dealing with conflict/issues work for you? Mostly.
8. Do they work for the people around you? Probably, because they end up getting what they want.
9. Do your expectations of how other people should handle conflict match up with your own behaviours? No, because other people actually handle it rather than running away or giving in, which is what I tend to do.
10. Do you have people in your life that you may or may not love but they get you going like no other person on earth? Oh HELL yes.
April 26th, 2007 at 7:46 am
1. Do you have a temper?
Only when I’ve had to much to drink.
2. Do you yell?
Only when I’ve had to much to drink.
3. Are you good at confronting/challenging people when you have an issue?
The absolute worst. I’m really really good at pretending the elephant in room doesn’t exist.
4. Do you know how to resolve your arguments generally?
Yea, just pretend there over.
5. Do you often apologize first?
Almost always.
6. Are you good at forgiving other people?
Very.
7. Do your strategies (or lack thereof) for dealing with conflict/issues work for you?
Have so far.
8. Do they work for the people around you?
Mostly.
9. Do your expectations of how other people should handle conflict match up with your own behaviours?
No, I know people who are exceptionally good at confronting conflict and unemotionally getting to the root of the problem or misunderstanding and clearing the air and I am just in complete awe of them.
10. Do you have people in your life that you may or may not love but they get you going like no other person on earth?
Yes, I have friends that know how to play me to drive me to another level of effort. I hate when they are doing it and love it when its over and we achieved something we wouldn’t have otherwise.
April 26th, 2007 at 7:53 am
1. Do you have a temper?
- Hell yeah. And those who have seen it really don’t ever look at me in the same way again. For better or for worse.
2. Do you yell?
- Hell yeah. But only at children.
Kidding.
I yell at everyone. I’m an equal opportunity yeller.
Truthfully, I have to be pushed right to the edge for me to raise my voice.
3. Are you good at confronting/challenging people when you have an issue?
- I hate to start arguments. To be the one to raise a topic? Very hard. Especially with people I care about.
4. Do you know how to resolve your arguments generally?
- Yep. I win them :)
5. Do you often apologize first?
- When I can/ought. Or have something to gain from it.
6. Are you good at forgiving other people?
- Some people for some things. I can also bear a grudge across the decades.
7. Do your strategies (or lack thereof) for dealing with conflict/issues work for you?
- Externally, yes. When it comes to internal conflict I find that supressing everything and drinking a lot is not working all that well. Though it’s fun for the first 3 months or so.
8. Do they work for the people around you?
- I’m not being irrationally angry and/or incapable of working efficiently, so I’d have to say that yeah, they are.
9. Do your expectations of how other people should handle conflict match up with your own behaviours?
- Except in the case of clearly insane female family members, mostly yes.
10. Do you have people in your life that you may or may not love but they get you going like no other person on earth?
- Yes, of course. These people are called mothers and sisters.
April 26th, 2007 at 7:53 am
1. Do you have a temper? I get angry, but most people don’t know it.
2. Do you yell? No. Only at the dogs.
3. Are you good at confronting/challenging people when you have an issue? I’m terrible at it.
4. Do you know how to resolve your arguments generally? I just give up.
5. Do you often apologize first? Yes.
6. Are you good at forgiving other people? Forgiving, yes; Forgetting, no.
7. Do your strategies (or lack thereof) for dealing with conflict/issues work for you? Well–I’m comfortable with them. Conflict terrifies me.
8. Do they work for the people around you? We don’t acknowledge anger, either of us.
9. Do your expectations of how other people should handle conflict match up with your own behaviours? Of course not! Do as I say, not as I do.
10. Do you have people in your life that you may or may not love but they get you going like no other person on earth? Yes — do people like Bill O’Reilly count?
April 26th, 2007 at 7:56 am
1. Yes
2. I try not to.
3. It depends on who I’m confronting. My parents? Never. Anyone else? I can handle it.
4. Yes
5. Only if necessary
6. Again, it depends on who I’m forgiving.
7. Generally speaking, my conflict resolution strategies work well.
8. I think so. I tend to not drive people away, so I would assume they work.
9. Yes
10. Absolutely.
April 26th, 2007 at 8:34 am
1. Not really
2. Rarely
3. No, I avoid confrontations — they’re a last resort for me
4. Yes… I’m not afraid to say I was wrong (except when I’m not!)
5. Very often
6. Mmm, depends on the situation. Usually, yes.
7. I suppose they must, or I’d find another way??
8. I assume so… perhaps I’m perceived as very passive-aggressive by others ;-)
9. I don’t have a lot of patience for people who flip out over (what I consider) minor or trivial stuff. I’m willing to make allowances for a lot of things…
10. Not anymore — I’ve consciously weeded them out of my life.
April 26th, 2007 at 11:01 am
1. Uh and huh.
2. Often.
3. It can depend on how comfortable I am with the person but usually I avoid confrontation.
4. No.
5. Yes.
6. Sometimes — depends on how much time I am willing to devote to analyzing every little thing that made me angry. Sometimes I’m just too tired, sometimes I want to be mad.
7. You mean avoiding the issues and pretending nothing happened? Yeah, that is working pretty well for me.
8. I would say emphatically not.
9. No again.
10. The people that get me are people who I truly love with all my heart but don’t always like.
April 26th, 2007 at 2:14 pm
1. Yes, but it’s constantly moderated by an inability to take myself seriously when in full cry.
2. At politicians on radio & TV, during football matches & at other drivers. Pretty much the standard protocol for guys, in fact.
3. Yes. My natural inclination is to be formally polite & to expedite business as quickly as possible. But with impolite minor functionaries, would-be bullies, languidly inefficient customer service operatives & smug officials I’m ready, willing & able to make an exception.
4. Yes. I don’t enjoy conflict & aim always for some kind of mutually satisfactory resolution.
5. I’m entirely prepared to, but I wouldn’t pursue confrontation without being certain that I had little or nothing for which to apologise!
6. Yes.
7. Pretty much so. But there are enough remembered exceptions to prevent complacency from setting in.
8. I tend not to have conflicts with people around me. Domestic & local conflicts generally resolve themselves by one or other of us starting to laugh.
9. If we know each other well, we work within certain rules of engagement. If not, I await clear indications of their behaviours & then react as seems appropriate in the circumstances.
10. Not any more. Life’s too short.
April 26th, 2007 at 4:55 pm
1. Do you have a temper? YES!
2. Do you yell? Rarely.
3. Are you good at confronting/challenging people when you have an issue? Yes.
4. Do you know how to resolve your arguments generally? Sure.
5. Do you often apologize first? Yes.
6. Are you good at forgiving other people? No. Not at all. I’m not sure I even know how. This troubles me.
7. Do your strategies (or lack thereof) for dealing with conflict/issues work for you? I wish I didn’t get so angry so easy, but mostly yes.
8. Do they work for the people around you? No.
9. Do your expectations of how other people should handle conflict match up with your own behaviours? No.
10. Do you have people in your life that you may or may not love but they get you going like no other person on earth? Yes.